A Little Reminder
Learn something new
Try something different
Enjoy all the flavors that life offers
Change what you can & the rest will go by
Strive to become the best you can be
Pseudo-Faking It
Today a close friend & I were having a little yakkety yak & we started talking about a few fake people we used to know back in school & how it bugged her (and me!). So this brings me to this post:
›People who go to certain places just to get noticed or to fit in
›People who act out of their character just to get noticed or to fit in
›People who dress out of their style just to get noticed or to fit in
›People who are friends with someone just to get noticed or to fit in
›People who brag about their designer car/watch/shoes/handbag just to get noticed or to fit in
They are fake, always trying to be something they are not in order to fit in with the rest of the crowd. In actual fact they are afraid of being themselves, for fear they will be rejected. So what do they do? They go with the flow. They follow the crowd. They go by ”there is safety in numbers.”
And the thing with all these people is that if you look underneath their ‘masks’ or facades they are empty. They have no real substance. They have no real goals, ambitions or values. They have been ripped of all of that Why? Because they have compromised their own ambitions & values to fit in with the mob.
♥ ”Never compromise your values & beliefs, even if it means risking ridicule & rejection. Be true to yourself. Live your own life & don’t allow others to decide what’s best for you. If you do, you will be unhappy because, you’re untrue to yourself” ♥
Thankfully I haven’t fallen victim to such pretense crowds. This is why when I come across someone who doesn’t follow the mob, someone who believes in individuality & someone who believes in who they are I hold onto them. And you should do too.
♥♥♥♥♥
All the time
I look in your eyes
But what I see
And what you say to me
Are two totally different things
You pretend you put on a façade
I only wish you knew that I’m not
The only one who sees it as odd
Fake people
The things they do are oh so evil
Because of their own insecurities
They try to pass on to you their idiosyncrasies
Thinking they are your friends you let them into your lives
But then they turn around and about you tell nothing but lies
Jealousy is such an ugly thing
Almost as ugly as hypocrisy
So now I must ask who are your friends
Are they really what they seem to be
Or are they just trying to hide from you their envy
Do your friends really have your back
Or is it that that’s where by them you’ve been stabbed
I once had a friend
One I thought would be there for me till the end
Then one day my happiness ended and theirs began
And when I needed someone to lean on
Behind me did no one stand
Fake people
The things they do are oh so evil
Because of their own insecurities
They try to pass on to you their idiosyncrasies
Thinking they are your friends you let them into your lives
But then they turn around and about you tell nothing but lies
Jealousy is such an ugly thing
Almost as ugly as hypocrisy
Be careful who you let know your business
Cause in the end
Rumors about you they could be spreadin’
Don’t put your trust in people who don’t trust you
There’s no telling what they’re liable to say or do
Grow smarter with each experience
And you’ll see true friends
Are the friends who are their with and for you till the end
Dionne K. Kelly
♥
Fake people
Are people that are not real
They always try to deceive you
And make you think that they are the real deal
With fake people
You can never see the light
Because when you are staring into their eyes
It’s always dark and never bright
Fake people are like mirrors
You can see right through them
They are always lying to you
But you already know it’s a scam
Fake people are always trying
To be something that they are not
But when you get a good look at them
You realize that they don’t look no where near as hot
Fake people think
That they gain a reputation
But in my eyes
They are an embarrassment to the entire nation
They are always trying to convince you
To believe who they say they are
But a fake person can’t fool me
Because I’m way too smart
Fake people waste time
But they never pay attention to the time that they are wasting
Only because their minds are always racing
They are always trying to impress you
With things that you never notice
But you wouldn’t be impressed
Even if you noticed
People don’t like to be lied to
So I think it’s better to tell the truth
And to let people see you for the real you
You have a chance
To be a leader of the pack
And I don’t think that things
Can get any better than that
Fake people think
That they can lie to get what they want
But what they want
Doesn’t accept false identity
All that they ask for
Is an ounce of simplicity
Fake people think that when people tell them the truth
That they are the enemy
But all they are trying to do
Is mold you into the person they know you can be
Because deep down inside
I know the real you is a star
And I think that it’s time for the fake you
And the real you to depart
Trust me
You don’t want to go down that road
Because people
Don’t have to be rocket scientists to know
That a fake person is living in our society
Lucky for us real people
That we have a variety
Fake people think that they are being real
But there is no real way to be fake
Maybe that will teach them
To put some thought into the decisions that they make
I always try to be me
And nobody else
Because if I did
It would be very easy for you to tell
Sometimes fake people
Are hard to believe
And they never realize
What the real person within them can achieve
You should rise
From underneath all that clutter
Because there is only one you
And there will never be another
And so the lesson here
Has been discovered
To never become a fake
Or you will suffer
Glenn McCrary
♥
While you look into the mirror
At that well known face again
Do you realize whats behind it
Has anything ever been
It really makes me question
Whether or not your real
Is this your reflection
Is this really what your feel
Do you have this stunning laugh
Or have this many friends
Do you have this sense of humor
Do you know where you begins
Does it ever occur to you
this may not be who you think
when once you were yourself
youre someone else in the matter of a blink
Continue acting if you really want
but if you just think of this
You dont exsist, your lifeless,
but its you, that you will miss
You sit in sadness
Back of the room
no one cares
Practically in your tomb
you pretend your fine
but through your own eyes…
your not.
Your fakeness like a white lie
white, so pure at first
In time they will discover
something scarier……you
Why cry?
Shouldnt they know?
but they’re all alike
All like you
Something they arent
Maintaining their image
It hurts
But to know the truth..
Is to know life.
Relax-In Tuesday
Hope everyone is having a good time this week. I’m done clearing up after my dinner (yummy jacket potatoes with butter, melted cheese, sour cream & sweet corn- which I made myelf!) & now I’m ready to laze about on the coach with my rich hot chocolate, reading book & a good movie
Enjoy the rest of the day lovelies!
Activity: Become an expert about a certain time period
My favorite time period was the Victorian & so I’m taking to researching all about this revered era.
If you’re in need of some inspiration how about you give the following a try:
♥ Ottoman Empire
♥ World War I/ World War II
♥ Cold War
♥ Viking Age
♥ The Renaissance
Think about all aspects of these periods. Social, fashion, religious, political, technology & everything in between! When you’re done researching, put all you’ve found (along with all the pictures) into a nicely written report, print it & bind it! You’re now your own expert in whatever period you chose!
Mega List: Things To Do When You’re Chirpy, Bored or Upset
♥ Treat yourself to a blissful manicure & pedicure
♥ Eat the yummiest chocolate you can possibly get your paws on
♥ Call up a friend and go have food somewhere ritzy
♥ Indulge in ”guilty pleasures” whatever they may be
♥ Blast some good music
♥ Treat yourself to a gorgeous pair of heels
♥ Indulge (in food!)
♥ Come up with an ingenious signature for yourself
♥ Dig up old photos and giggle at the memories
♥ Send a postcard or letter to a friend
♥ Have a milkshake
♥ Join a dance class
♥ Write a letter to yourself in the future
♥ Jot down your ideal have-it-all routine, and then jot down your actual routine. Compare the two: how can you integrate them?
♥ Add diamantes to your manicure
♥ Choose a festival to go to, tell your friends, & start whipping out plans
♥ Write a love letter
♥ Spruce up & take loads of silly pictures
♥ Watch cartoons you used to love as a child
♥ Plan yourself a delicious new outfit on Polyvore, then head out to purchase it
♥ Try a new makeup style
♥ Experiment with false eyelashes
♥ Start your own collection of stickers
♥ Plan a thrilling holiday
♥ Have some yummy hot chocolate and marshmallows
♥ Sit down & read a good book
♥ Learn some French phrases
♥ Start scrap booking
♥ Decide to break a bad habit. Get a small notebook, and record your progress breaking this habit for 21 days
♥ Promise yourself you will commit to an act of charity each month. Plan out this month’s act of charity
♥ Go to Lush & buy something
♥ Sort out your wardrobe. Get rid of clothes you don’t wear
♥ Come up with a wish list of whatever satisfies your soul
♥ Play around with Photoshop
♥ Journal your achievements- grades, compliments, promotions, certificates, travel, savings goals -in the prettiest notebook you can find with the most aesthetically pleasing pictures
♥ Make a list of books you want to read & get reading
♥ Go for a massage
Activity: Do I Make the Best Use of My Time?
Ask yourself this: Do I make the best use of my time?
♥ How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives- Annie Dillard ♥
Worrying: A Destructive Habit
♥ ”Worrying gives a small thing a big shadow” Swedish Proverb ♥
I can always find something to worry about. I don’t know how I manage to, I just do. Would I call myself a chronic worrier? I’m not sure I’d go that far but one thing’s for sure: I’m bent on breaking this destructive habit. Worrying is a vicious cycle. It saps your emotional energy, sends your anxiety levels soaring, interferes with your day and disturbs your sleeping pattern. Luckily it is also a mental habit that you can easily learn how to break with a few simple steps.
Studies on worrying have shown the following statistics:
→ 40% of what we worry about never happens
→ 30% of what we worry about has already happened
→ Only 8% of what we worry about actually happens…
♥ Make a list of all your worries no matter how big or small they are. Next to each worry determine whether it is productive or unproductive. A productive worry is one you can do something about. An unproductive worry is one you can’t do anything about. For example, worrying whether or not you will get cancer is unproductive. On the other hand, if you have an exam tomorrow and are worried because you haven’t studied, studying would be a good idea. This is an example of a productive worry because you can do something about it. Next to all the unproductive worries jot down all the possible positive outcomes related to the worry itself. Make your list as long as possible with around 10-20 points. When you find yourself worrying go over your list. This will remind you to look for positive outcomes instead of always imagining the worst
♥ When you head off to sleep DO NOT plan for tomorrow. All it does is disrupt your sleep and dreams
♥ If possible steer clear of the source or situation that makes you worry in the first place
♥ Remember that it’s never ever as bad as you think it will be. Our cunning mind always manages to blow things out of proportion. Bear that in mind
♥ When you worry, you are sort of predicting the future. Nobody knows what the future holds so it’s totally good for nothing
♥ Worrying is bad for your health! That should be a big enough reason to stop you from worrying!
♥ Stop trying to be in control of the universe. Not everything goes the way you want it. So you need to relax and accept that sometimes things really are out of your hands
♥ Worrying about something that has already happened is absurd. Let go of the past. Forgive yourself and others. Nobody can change bygones
♥ As soon as you find yourself beginning to worry distract yourself. Call a friend. Read a book. Go for a walk. Watch a movie. Listen to some music
♥ Whenever you find yourself worrying about something in the future say to yourself ”I will worry about this tomorrow. There is no need to worry about it today as it won’t happen for quite a while anyway.” Delay worrying for another day
♥ Remember to keep things in perspective
♥ Accept uncertainty. People who worry too much have a need to be certain about everything. The only thing certain in this world is uncertainty itself. Worrying about uncertainty is just a waste of energy
♥ Do lots of exercise. Exercise helps to release endorphins in your body. Endorphins are feel good chemicals
♥ Stop worrying what people think of you. You do not need to identify your self worth with the opinions of others
♥ Remind yourself that more often than not, worrying is not going to help
♥ Live in the present. Most of the problems you worry about appear when you live in the past or the future
♥ Don’t sweat the small stuff. Life is too short to always be worrying, let alone worrying about the small insignificant things
♥ Be careful what you wish for. By continuously thinking about something you give it power. In some form these thoughts are more likely to materialize. Beware!
♥ Keep a pen and paper by your bed so if any thoughts pop into your head when you’re just ready to sleep you can write them down and clear your mind
♥ Spend some time relaxing each day. Listen to soothing music. Do some yoga. Go for a long walk
Things I Love Thursday
♥ Inpromptu trips to Starbucks for cheesecake with friends
♥ Yummy strawberry and banana D Lush smoothies
♥ Walks along the beach with someone to talk things over with
♥ International phone calls from darling friends
♥ Gentlemen who hold open the lift for you
♥ Trying on loads of clothes and taking silly pictures with friends at the mall
♥ Sweet compliments!
Random Questions
♥ Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed?
People actually sleep with their closet opened?
♥ Do you take the shampoos and conditioner bottles from hotel?
If they smell good, yeah!
♥ Do you sleep with your sheets tucked in or out?
I just leave ‘em the way they are
♥ Do you like to use post-it notes?
Yes!
♥ Do you have freckles?
One or two yeah
♥ Do you ever count your steps when you walk?
When I’m going through one of my OCD phases I do..
♥ Do you chew your pens and pencils?
Ew, nasty. Never
♥ How many languages can you speak?
Two
♥ Afraid of heights?
Very
♥ Peanuts or Sunflower seeds?
Sunflower seeds
♥ Ever been in love?
Yes. He broke my heart
♥ Are you patient?
Very impatient
♥ Do you have kids?
I’m 19!
♥ Do you always smile for pictures?
I try to hehe
