Mega List: Things To Do When You’re Chirpy, Bored or Upset
♥ Treat yourself to a blissful manicure & pedicure
♥ Eat the yummiest chocolate you can possibly get your paws on
♥ Call up a friend and go have food somewhere ritzy
♥ Indulge in ”guilty pleasures” whatever they may be
♥ Blast some good music
♥ Treat yourself to a gorgeous pair of heels
♥ Indulge (in food!)
♥ Come up with an ingenious signature for yourself
♥ Dig up old photos and giggle at the memories
♥ Send a postcard or letter to a friend
♥ Have a milkshake
♥ Join a dance class
♥ Write a letter to yourself in the future
♥ Jot down your ideal have-it-all routine, and then jot down your actual routine. Compare the two: how can you integrate them?
♥ Add diamantes to your manicure
♥ Choose a festival to go to, tell your friends, & start whipping out plans
♥ Write a love letter
♥ Spruce up & take loads of silly pictures
♥ Watch cartoons you used to love as a child
♥ Plan yourself a delicious new outfit on Polyvore, then head out to purchase it
♥ Try a new makeup style
♥ Experiment with false eyelashes
♥ Start your own collection of stickers
♥ Plan a thrilling holiday
♥ Have some yummy hot chocolate and marshmallows
♥ Sit down & read a good book
♥ Learn some French phrases
♥ Start scrap booking
♥ Decide to break a bad habit. Get a small notebook, and record your progress breaking this habit for 21 days
♥ Promise yourself you will commit to an act of charity each month. Plan out this month’s act of charity
♥ Go to Lush & buy something
♥ Sort out your wardrobe. Get rid of clothes you don’t wear
♥ Come up with a wish list of whatever satisfies your soul
♥ Play around with Photoshop
♥ Journal your achievements- grades, compliments, promotions, certificates, travel, savings goals -in the prettiest notebook you can find with the most aesthetically pleasing pictures
♥ Make a list of books you want to read & get reading
♥ Go for a massage
Activity: Do I Make the Best Use of My Time?
Ask yourself this: Do I make the best use of my time?
♥ How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives- Annie Dillard ♥
Worrying: A Destructive Habit
♥ ”Worrying gives a small thing a big shadow” Swedish Proverb ♥
I can always find something to worry about. I don’t know how I manage to, I just do. Would I call myself a chronic worrier? I’m not sure I’d go that far but one thing’s for sure: I’m bent on breaking this destructive habit. Worrying is a vicious cycle. It saps your emotional energy, sends your anxiety levels soaring, interferes with your day and disturbs your sleeping pattern. Luckily it is also a mental habit that you can easily learn how to break with a few simple steps.
Studies on worrying have shown the following statistics:
→ 40% of what we worry about never happens
→ 30% of what we worry about has already happened
→ Only 8% of what we worry about actually happens…
♥ Make a list of all your worries no matter how big or small they are. Next to each worry determine whether it is productive or unproductive. A productive worry is one you can do something about. An unproductive worry is one you can’t do anything about. For example, worrying whether or not you will get cancer is unproductive. On the other hand, if you have an exam tomorrow and are worried because you haven’t studied, studying would be a good idea. This is an example of a productive worry because you can do something about it. Next to all the unproductive worries jot down all the possible positive outcomes related to the worry itself. Make your list as long as possible with around 10-20 points. When you find yourself worrying go over your list. This will remind you to look for positive outcomes instead of always imagining the worst
♥ When you head off to sleep DO NOT plan for tomorrow. All it does is disrupt your sleep and dreams
♥ If possible steer clear of the source or situation that makes you worry in the first place
♥ Remember that it’s never ever as bad as you think it will be. Our cunning mind always manages to blow things out of proportion. Bear that in mind
♥ When you worry, you are sort of predicting the future. Nobody knows what the future holds so it’s totally good for nothing
♥ Worrying is bad for your health! That should be a big enough reason to stop you from worrying!
♥ Stop trying to be in control of the universe. Not everything goes the way you want it. So you need to relax and accept that sometimes things really are out of your hands
♥ Worrying about something that has already happened is absurd. Let go of the past. Forgive yourself and others. Nobody can change bygones
♥ As soon as you find yourself beginning to worry distract yourself. Call a friend. Read a book. Go for a walk. Watch a movie. Listen to some music
♥ Whenever you find yourself worrying about something in the future say to yourself ”I will worry about this tomorrow. There is no need to worry about it today as it won’t happen for quite a while anyway.” Delay worrying for another day
♥ Remember to keep things in perspective
♥ Accept uncertainty. People who worry too much have a need to be certain about everything. The only thing certain in this world is uncertainty itself. Worrying about uncertainty is just a waste of energy
♥ Do lots of exercise. Exercise helps to release endorphins in your body. Endorphins are feel good chemicals
♥ Stop worrying what people think of you. You do not need to identify your self worth with the opinions of others
♥ Remind yourself that more often than not, worrying is not going to help
♥ Live in the present. Most of the problems you worry about appear when you live in the past or the future
♥ Don’t sweat the small stuff. Life is too short to always be worrying, let alone worrying about the small insignificant things
♥ Be careful what you wish for. By continuously thinking about something you give it power. In some form these thoughts are more likely to materialize. Beware!
♥ Keep a pen and paper by your bed so if any thoughts pop into your head when you’re just ready to sleep you can write them down and clear your mind
♥ Spend some time relaxing each day. Listen to soothing music. Do some yoga. Go for a long walk
Things I Love Thursday
♥ Inpromptu trips to Starbucks for cheesecake with friends
♥ Yummy strawberry and banana D Lush smoothies
♥ Walks along the beach with someone to talk things over with
♥ International phone calls from darling friends
♥ Gentlemen who hold open the lift for you
♥ Trying on loads of clothes and taking silly pictures with friends at the mall
♥ Sweet compliments!
Random Questions
♥ Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed?
People actually sleep with their closet opened?
♥ Do you take the shampoos and conditioner bottles from hotel?
If they smell good, yeah!
♥ Do you sleep with your sheets tucked in or out?
I just leave ‘em the way they are
♥ Do you like to use post-it notes?
Yes!
♥ Do you have freckles?
One or two yeah
♥ Do you ever count your steps when you walk?
When I’m going through one of my OCD phases I do..
♥ Do you chew your pens and pencils?
Ew, nasty. Never
♥ How many languages can you speak?
Two
♥ Afraid of heights?
Very
♥ Peanuts or Sunflower seeds?
Sunflower seeds
♥ Ever been in love?
Yes. He broke my heart
♥ Are you patient?
Very impatient
♥ Do you have kids?
I’m 19!
♥ Do you always smile for pictures?
I try to hehe
Building Your Self Esteem
♥ Believe in yourself. ”You can do it if you believe you can- Napoleon Hill”
♥ Accept responsibility for your actions. If you mess up ‘fess up!
♥ Realize how wonderful you are. You are unique and talented. There will never be anyone just like you
♥ Fake it. Play the part of a confident person. Act like you’re confident and very soon this part will be real
♥ STOP comparing yourself to others no matter how pretty, clever, confident or rich they are. You’re only setting yourself up for disappointment because there will always be people ahead of you. That’s just the way life is. Focus on YOU
♥ List your positive qualities. All humans are a mixture of good and bad qualities. Look at your good and forget your bad
♥ Don’t pay any attention to people who try and put you down. This behaviour is rooted in their own insecurities – they knock other people to make themselves feel better. And no I don’t believe in the age old saying ‘’sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” because words can be hurtful. I’ve been hurt by other people’s words and I’m sure you have as well. What I’m trying to say is realize where such people are coming from. They are fighting a battle with themselves. Don’t take everything that people tell you onboard. Don’t let it get to you.
♥ Detach yourself from criticism. Criticism is always hard to take and remember that pretty much whatever you do you’ll be criticised for. As Donald H. Rumsfield said ”If you are not criticized, you may not be doing much.” Do what you love and what you feel is right, for you’ll be critized anyway, whether you do it or you don’t.
♥ Re-define failure (an in depth post on this soon!)
♥ Dress well- it’s always a confidence booster!
♥ Accept who you are and be okay with it. You’ll never be able to please everybody but that’s OK. The sooner you stop trying to walk to the beat of someone’s drum, and start dancing to your own rhythm, the more confident you’ll be.
♥ STOP putting yourself down. You don’t need it from other people and you certainly don’t need it from yourself
♥ Celebrate progress and small victories
♥ Let bygones be bygones. Realize that the past does not equal the future
♥ Spend less time with critical people and more time with those who appreciate you
♥ Work on achieving your goals, one by one. This will build your confidence up as you go about it
